Chosen Destinies

Apr 21, 2012 Ramblings No comments

Not everyone hates you. No, I can’t trust you saying that, because I know for a fact that you’re dead wrong.

Not. Everyone. Hates. You.

Now, you’re automatically going to say, “No, I know it, trust me” but just consider what I have to say. For now, assume that they do not, in fact hate you. I guarantee that at least half of the people you think hate you do not.

How do you think they hate you? Do they pick on you, bully you, or what? Is it as simple as ignoring you? Because honestly, I used to think people hate me for everything. But not everyone is a hating type of person. Indifference and callousness does not equal hate. You’re not in some unlucky situation where they automatically hate on this one girl, for what? Being fat and slutty and all those stupid lies? (Not to mention about things that don’t, you know, actually matter.) In middle school/high school, kids can be stupid bullies. Key word: stupid. What they say can and does hurt, but

1. It doesn’t matter.
2. You shouldn’t care what they think.
3. They’re wrong.

School can be the absolute worst. But that’s because it’s full of immature, insecure kids trying to deal with their own problems. I know it’s hard, but you have to realize those three points.

Never take anything personally. Trust yourself for your own happiness. I know you can—you’ve done so already, and you’re stronger for making through the hell you’ve been through. Forget about what people say about you.

When somebody picks on you, it’s not necessarily because they hate you and want to make you feel miserable. Think about why they would do that. 99% of the time, they’re insecure with themselves. They’re bored. They want attention. That flaw you supposedly have annoys them when it shouldn’t. And if anybody confronts you about your character, it’s only because they care about you and know you can do better.

Don’t listen to what bullies have to say. Just don’t. There’s a fine line between fair criticism and being just plain mean, and I hope you learn it. Whenever somebody says something negative, take in account their situation.

Kids are selfish. When hate you—they’re not telling you to die. They’re not saying you don’t deserve to live. They hate themselves. They hate what they think they see. They just personally don’t prefer a trait you possess that isn’t necessarily harmful. Whatever the reason, you’re not in the wrong. You’re not flawed.

Only criminal things deserve the hatred of character. And you can even make amends for that, be it community service, jail time, etc.

Nobody has any reason to hate you. Repeat that for me.

Nobody has any reason to hate me.

They simply don’t. They may think they do, but in reality, they’re pathetic for having to leech off negative energy. And if they’re hateful—it’s just their character. You shouldn’t be so offended. I know you are, and I know it’s difficult, but you have to start thinking more positively.

A person doesn’t like you? It doesn’t mean you’re flawed. All it means is that they don’t like you. Nobody can have everyone like them because everyone has unique tastes. Don’t strive for the impossible, hun.

You don’t need everyone’s attention, everyone’s love, everyone’s compliments to know you’re special and worth something. You only need one person to see that. I know for a fact you have more, and you WILL be surprised at how much people like you. It may be your low standards, but seriously, if people don’t like you, FIND PEOPLE WHO DO. Hang around THEM. You may think that no one does, but that’s because nobody knows you. Be yourself, and the brave ones worthy to be your friend will emerge. And they will help you see your own worth.

I want to say this again: not everyone hates you. I’d go as far to say as that people who think they hate you don’t have any real reason to. If you’ve done wrong to them (and something reasonable, like betrayal, and not “she offended me with her clothing” or other nonsense), then it is UNDERSTANDABLE, and instead of moping around, thinking they hate you forever, YOU MAKE UP WITH THEM. And if you guys don’t work out, you don’t. You’re incompatible. It says nothing about your character. It just means that person shouldn’t hang around you, because you simply don’t get along, and THAT’S OKAY.

Apr 6, 2012 Myself No comments

is just the beginning of ‘goodbye’.

I hope we meet again.

Feb 13, 2012 No comments

1. Couples finding an excuse to flaunt the fact they’re in a relationship. I don’t mind people who actually act that annoying and romantic. (Though I’d appreciate it if you gain some awareness.) No, I’m talking about those couples who like the fact they’re in a relationship and like showing it off. Those insecure people who would be groaning on Valentine’s Day about not having a Valentine and needing a boyfriend or girlfriend to feel complete. If you’re one of those people, please understand you don’t need another person to make you happy. Thank you.
2. Those “Forever Alone” people who complain about being lonely and seeing couples everywhere. Couples are already everywhere, it’s just a universal day where they act extra lovey-dovey for no reason. Dude, it’s totally awesome to be single. I don’t get why people are upset and feel they can’t celebrate Valentine’s Day… It’s a free holiday to do whatever. Take it. Plus, you’re saving money and/or time by not having a significant other. I love celebrating Valentine’s Day, with or without a boyfriend. It’s about love, not necessarily romance.
3. People like me who complain about hating Valentine’s Day. I’m looking at you, Kingsley.

Nov 29, 2011 Ramblings No comments

“You’re weird.” Context: Insult
Translation: “Wow, you’re something different other than me. Obviously, my way is the only way things should be and I don’t agree with you. This means something is wrong with you, because I can’t be wrong.”

“You have a lot of time on your hands.”
Translation: “You spent effort doing something I find a waste of time. Hey, it doesn’t matter whether you enjoyed or if it was productive, I would find it boring and because I find it boring, you do too and I can’t believe you spent so much time doing something boring. Are you masochistic or something? Because I find whatever you did boring or a waste of time, so it is.”

“Hey! Everyone’s entitled to their opinion.”
Translation: “I can contribute nothing to the discussion.”

“It’s called freedom of speech.” or variations
Translation: “What do you mean opinions can be wrong?”

“Shut up!” Context: In the middle of an argument
Translation: “I can’t think of a rebuttal to what you just said, but I know you’re wrong! I am completely right! You don’t deserve to continue your stupidity.”

“You’d never say that in real life!”
Translation: “I couldn’t think of anything to counter what you just said, so I’m just going to attack you, regardless of whether or not that actually has an impact on my argument. I think your character has an impact on the truth. Ad Hominem Tu Quoque? Where?”

“You’re so extra.”
Translation: “You put more effort into something than I would. I think that is a waste of time, so obviously you do too. I’m lazy and think any more effort than necessary it’s just completely a waste of time. Only the minimum should be required, because hard work isn’t a good thing.”

“I didn’t even try.”
Translation: “I’m afraid of looking stupid and I conform to idea that hard work is uncool. If I say I didn’t try and do good, it looks like I can do better. If I say I didn’t try and do bad, I can blame it on my lack of trying. Win-win!”

“Make me a sandwich.” Context: Male to a female, trying to insult her
Translation: “I’m unoriginal and completely sexist. I find newspaper comics hilarious. And guys, did you hear that Osama bin Laden is dead?! Wow!”

“Suck my dick.” or variations
Translation: “Shut up shut up shut up okay I can’t be wrong you’re just being stupid la la la”

“It can’t be a coincidence!” Context: Describing the luck of a random event
Translation: Evidence of a human demonstrating their ability to recognize and create patterns. Also, it is.

“[asserting that any urban legend is true]”
Translation: “I’ll believe anything and will never try to verify facts.”

“Oh wow.” Context: Sarcastically.
Translation: “I can’t believe you went the extra mile. I can’t accept that my laziness is a bad thing, so I’ll just insult those who do better than me.”

“I hate when people complain about good grades.”
Translation: “Grades are luck-based. My personal best is everyone else’s. Anything surpassing that is really hard. No one should complain if they got higher than me because they couldn’t have done better.”

“The Bible says so.”
Translation: “I’ve never really read the Bible.”

“OMG!!!1 Facebook changed AGAIN!”
Translation: “I’m not very good with computers, nor do I adapt to change. I never learn that I just get used to the changes. I’m unaware I bother the crap out of people like Vanesa.”

Nov 27, 2011 Obsessions, Ramblings No comments

… but I can’t help it! If you couldn’t tell, I’ve been browsing them and r/atheism for the past few months. I am absolutely intrigued.

However, I’m also mad at people who are completely prejudiced against atheism.

Life Pro Tip of the Day! Google your questions about atheism instead of making them up.

Also, what inspired me to write this post: this Yahoo Answers Page. Someone asked if atheists make up the meaning in their lives. An answer provided on this page is, and I quote,

No, they don’t believe their lives have any meaning or purpose. They think they are just animals and that love is just chemical. Sad, huh?

I actually agree with the first two sentences. We have no meaning. We are just animals. And I’m no expert, but love is all in your brain. I believe when we die, we will return to the Earth. I believe no one is watching us from a divine place. We’re nothing in this universe.

Does that make me sad? Of course not.

Our very existence is amazing. Again, I’m not an expert and my understanding of science is still limited, but what I know about it so far is truly remarkable.

Can you imagine that all of us, everything you’ve ever known and seen, came from a star? We are all star dust. And from this star dust, our planet, and eventually life emerged. Now, life is already amazing. As far as we know, we’re the only planet harbouring it. But that isn’t enough. From a single-cell organism, we all have evolved until we became humans today. Self-aware, intelligent humans. I believe this is all just a coincidence, and anyone who thinks it’s too amazing is just trying to draw a meaning where meaning does not exist.

The fact we can even love in the first place is amazing. We can take the original purpose of attraction to procreate, and use it to truly enjoy something special. (Loosely referencing Greta Christina’s speech on atheism and sexuality at Skepticon.)

That is more beautiful than what any religious text can tell me.

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